I used to think that I was ok with my prayer habits. My prayers included the usual thanks and asking for forgiveness. But, when it came to praying for the things I wanted, I had a much different approach. I’ve always had a hard time deciphering how to ask. I know that what ever God’s will is he will do it. So why then I be choosy and ask for the things I wanted. You may so, because he said ask and you shall receive. But we know that what we receive in return for asking is God’s Will and whatever his answer is. That could include a “no” or “wait” answer. So, I often prayed something like “Lord, I really would like (insert request) but father, not my will but yours.”
It wasn’t until DH expressed his feelings of inadequacy with prayer that my prayer life shifted into a new dimension. After our discussion, I was moved to order a bible study about prayer and we’ve have been working through it. Along with that, I got a book with prayers to be said four times a day that seemed to jump out at me while ordering the bible study.
One thing that has become increasingly clear as we work through the bible study, is that I should be asking more directly for the things that I want to request.
I’ve also begun trying to work in those prayers that are said four times a day. When I go through those prayers, I ask directly for what I want.