Justice, Ricky, And James

Meet Justice, Ricky, and James

This threesome has been on our minds for quite some time now. It must have been at least six months ago. . . Well, I know it was at least last March or April. . . that these three kids first opened a place in our hearts. So, I know it’s been more than six months. We first saw them long before we ever had our homestudy approved. I know partially because I remember discussing them with my family and my cousin around my parents dinner table one night when Tracy was here. It was part of a discussion about the whole process, the search website, etc that it seems we’re destined to have countless times. I remember then expressing how these three had caught our eye but that the middle one had asperger’s syndrome and we just weren’t sure about going that route. My cousin, whose middle son has a rare form of spinal bifida, talked about how she’d like to adopt a high medical needs child given all that she’s been through with Scott.

Well, then they disappeared from the search page. This can mean many things. . . they’ve been placed for adoption, home studies and familes are being reviewed, or something has changed in their lives.

In the mean time, I’ve been reading Ali’s blog and DH and I have discussed more and more about perhaps being able to handle autism depending on where on the spectrum.

About the time we got our approved home study last fall, these three children appeared again on the search pages. We discussed and prayed about it. We decided to submit in interest form. It’s one of three that we submitted. One for a two-some and the other was for another threesome- only 2,3, and 4 year old boys. It was those three young boys that seemed to solidify in DH’s mind that he really could handle older children.

Of the three interest forms, the return email for Justice, Ricky, and James was the only one that gave any information about contacting the worker regarding the inquiry. . . only it said 30-45 days after the inquiry. Knowing what that means here in the agency, we did our part and managed to wait until those 45 days were past. I emailed the worker requesting an update.

We heard back from the worker within a couple of days. The children were removed from adoption (although they were still on the search pages) because the youngest child was placed in a residential treatment facility. She also said that they were conducting a sibling assessment. It broke my heart. James, the youngest child, is portrayed as a normal little boy without any problems mentioned in his description. Of course, the description also reads “although he’s not in pre-k yet” when now he’s six. . . so we know the description is out dated. But, it makes us wonder what has happened to him in foster care or perhaps an adoptive placement that went wrong.

It’s probably one of the many worries I have for my kids. I don’t know who they are but I know they have a hard road to go before they come to our house. I wonder if our kids are still in their abusive/neglective homes, or if they have already been removed, what life is like in their foster care experience. I pray for our kids constantly and now, with the story of these three kids, I pray even more for all the kids seeking their forever home.

But, these three kids, for whatever reason, they have a hold on me. . . and I think DH too. Yesterday, as I was looking at the search site, they didn’t appear as a sibling group. I found them. . . only it was each of them listed individually. I hate the thought of these three kids being seperated. I realize there are some circumstances where seperating them could be best for them, but it’s still so hard to wrap my brain around what that must be like for siblings who go through this walk in life. As I thought about it, I wondered if anyone was fighting for them to stay together. I talked to DH about it. We decided to ask questions. I emailed the worker back to see if this means that the three can’t be adopted together or if they can, to see if we can find out more about the behaviors that led to the youngest going to the RTC.

You know, I don’t know if these kids are the one. . . but it’s almost as if I can feel God and my maternal instinct leading me their way. I don’t know what the feeling of knowing for sure that you’ve found the ones is like and we may not know it when we do feel it. How do you know for sure that’s what the feeling if you’ve never experienced the feeling before? I do know that it seems God is preparing us for something. . . . I just don’t have the crystal ball to know where he’s leading us for sure.

Related posts:

1. When Live Stares You In The Face
2. Waiting while on a Rollercoaster Ride
3. Prayers For Adoption
4. Preparing for the Selection Meeting
5. Selection!

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